It’s also something that’s important to keep in mind in every aspect of your life, I guess? Marriage, relationship, family, work. A lot of problems in our lives could be solved if we keep an open mind, communicate our issues well and ask for help whenever necessary.
For instance, something called “
Mama Secrets” has been going viral in the past few days. It’s a thing where this one Instagram account,
MakChic, opened a Q&A session where Mums or wives can share what they want their husbands to do/know about.
I spent some time to go through the ‘secrets’ posted by the wives/Mums of Instagram, and realized that most, if not all, of the problems sent in through the Q&A could be solved if the couple had good communication between them, or if the wives had just asked the husband for help, in whatever aspects.
I’m not in a position to say this because Aiman and I have just been married for less than a year. I’m not sure what the future holds for us (insyaAllah, all good things, all good things). But so far, I’m thankful to have him around while I’m doing my master’s because he’s been a real help in the house.
I don’t have to worry much about household chores because he would pitch in and help out wherever needed. Sure, I need to sometimes remind him about laundry, or take out the trash, or clean up the house a little. But he has never complained about it, nor does he say things like “oh, that’s the wife’s job, not a husband’s job”.
Good communication is also key, as you can ensure that there are no misunderstanding that can stem from something small and petty like leaving dirty laundry on the floor or not spending time to eat dinner together. People tend to misunderstand a lot of things (like me!), but the more you keep it to yourself, the more stressed out you’d be. So learning to communicate it out and actually being proactive in solving the issues would go a long way, don’t you think so?