One of the modules that I’m taking this semester is the Mentoring & Coaching module, which is an elective for my master’s program. I chose this as my elective purely because I was considering a career as a career coach / life coach in the future, so learning a little bit about it would be helpful.
A week ago, we were talking about the skills and attributes of being a good mentor / coach, which included being approachable, knowledgeable / experienced, able to provide motivation and constructive criticism and being ethical and respectful.
But one thing that caught my attention was how we also talked about how mentoring and/or coaching is a two-way relationship - the mentee also needs to have the initiative to reach out to the mentor, to be willing to learn and be guided, to be invested in the relationship and be open to suggestions and new ideas.
After all - a mentoring or coaching relationship cannot work if it’s a one-way thing. It’d be useless and a complete waste of time for both parties.
It’s the same thing in any school or learning environment - the teacher can be super dedicated and committed to the students, but if the students aren’t paying attention or putting in the efforts, do they really learn anything from it?
It’s like how the Malays used to say in the old days - Bertepuk sebelah tangan tidak akan berbunyi, no?