I don’t know about you guys, but when I was in university, I suffer from Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) for quite a while. When I see friends hanging out without inviting me or going shopping without telling me, I get a little hurt and jealous. I start to think…
Why was I not invited? Was I not fun enough to be around? Do they feel that I’m a nuisance? Why is my college life not as fun and glamorous as others’?
Being on social media and seeing all the pictures and videos of my friends hanging out, while I lie in my bed in my empty studio room, made it a lot worse.
We all have a need and want to be connected with people. To be surrounded by the people we love and to enjoy life together.
And university life was supposed to be the best 3-5 years of your life (according to some people), so you would naturally want to spend as much time as possible with your friends and building memories.
So when you see your friends doing things without you, it can certainly trigger your FOMO.
At least, it did for me…
When I graduated and got married in mid-2018, my views changed. While the “Why was I not invited?” thought still pops up every once in a while, I realized that my priorities are different.
I no longer crave large group gatherings, parties, or hangouts. Instead, I prefer to have intimate gatherings with people who I know I would want to spend time with. Meeting up in smaller groups allowed for a more in-depth and personal conversation, allowing me to properly invest my time and energy into building that relationship.