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You are good enough - Say What? #14

Hello lovely people! It's almost the end of Ramadhan, so if you're celebrating Eid, I wish you a very
June 1 · Issue #14 · View online
Say What?
Hello lovely people!
It’s almost the end of Ramadhan, so if you’re celebrating Eid, I wish you a very Eid Mubarak, and may we be blessed with the opportunity to see Ramadhan again next year.
For everyone else - I hope everything’s going on well for you! It’s already June, so hopefully you’ve made a dent in your New Year’s Resolutions for this year!

One thing that I’ve been trying to work on throughout the past year is to overcome the impostor syndrome feeling. It’s hard at times, especially when I’m surrounded by classmates who know their stuff and I’m just sitting there feeling like, “How the hell did I ended up here?”
There have been multiple times in the past, especially in my first semester of graduate school, that I felt like it was a mistake. Somehow, somewhere, I felt like the Admissions team or the school made a mistake in admitting me to the program.
Even when I went to talk to the wellbeing advisor last term, I talked to her about it and how I felt like I wasn’t meant to be there. I didn’t think that I would’ve passed my classes, but, hey, look at me now. I successfully got through two semesters of graduate school, and my grades aren’t that bad either.
Elizabeth Cox: What is imposter syndrome and how can you combat it? | TED Talk
Thankfully, that feeling is slowly going away. Sure, sometimes I still feel like shit once in a while. But bit by bit, I’m slowly trying to overcome that feeling. It’s not easy, especially now that I’m starting to think about potential job opportunities after I finish my Master’s program. Looking at all those job descriptions and requirements and all make me think…
Am I really up for this kind of role? What makes me think that I can do this?
I shared this one article before in a previous issue, but I think that it’s a good one to share again now - Girls vs Boys - Confidence. I find it interesting because in some ways, it’s true, at least for me. I realized that when I’m looking at job requirements and all, I start calculating in my head.
Do I meet all of their requirements? Can I actually show it? What would they think if they see my application and realized that I applied without meeting all the requirements?
Which is a little funny, considering how personally, I feel like “Yes, I can do this job”, but when it comes to actually applying for it, I tend to shy away because I think about all the other people who would be applying for it and how I wasn’t going to make the cut.
Yes, Impostor Syndrome is Real: Here's How to Deal With It | Time
But I guess, sometimes in life you just have to wing it? Nobody’s ever going to be perfect enough for anything. Nobody’s ever going to be the perfect candidate, the perfect fit. After all, we all have our own unique strengths and abilities, and not one person is the same as another.
So, if you are feeling low or in the dumps, find something or someone who can make you feel better. Talk to someone about it - you’ll soon realize that you are not the only one feeling that way. Think about all the good things you’ve done and achieved in your life, and own them.
You are good enough. You deserve to be where you are now.
One thing that has helped me so far is re-reading old recommendation letters from my past supervisors/advisors/lecturers. This helps me to remember that I have people who believe in me, who saw potential in me and was willing to help me get to where I am now. I save screenshots of people’s comments, messages and DMs as a reminder on how the things that I do matter, albeit in a small way.
Every little thing counts, and you deserve to feel proud of your achievements. Don’t let anyone (not even that nagging voice in the back of your head) tell you that your successes are a result of pure luck, or that they mean nothing compared to what other people have achieved. Everyone fight a different challenge, and every win, no matter how big or small, is still a win.
You gotta own it
You gotta own it
Selamat Hari Raya to everyone who’s celebrating, and to those who are celebrating it away from home (like I am!), don’t fret! Think about how you get to dodge all the “So, when are you getting married / kids?” questions from your (I assume) well-intentioned relatives (I know I am!)
Until I see you again in two weeks, take care everyone and stay awesome!
Nazu #TeamRayaUK
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